Dedicating this post to the ladies of my life, grew up watching for the last 50 years. Love them all…

Let me start with my mother, someone I am born to and who is strong-headed in ways that today we call the Alpha Female, someone who could get her voice heard across hundreds, oh… she has a beautiful voice, her singing is something I would love, I could never sing but she has a voice of an angel, her voice was and is mesmerising and she knew it, she was proud of it and she never hesitated to show it off. Someone who dared to fall in love in the 1950s and stood with her guy, my father, against their families to get married, someone who chose not to run away but to gather the whole Khandaan (family) to take care of them within her love marriage, someone who did not get a child for 17 years of marriage but her husband or their families could never gather guts to approach her to adopt or to let her husband remarry (remember in muslims, 4 wives are allowed), someone who ran a retail business of her own in 1970s, someone who had the courage to tell her husband to pursue his dream of innovation and she took care of the complete family of 20+ (her sister’s family plus hers), someone who stood by her husband when he dared and decided to send their daughter (me) to a convent wearing short skirts & having night overs with friends in 1980s, finally, someone even today, who fights her own to protect what’s hers, I call this lady Alpha Female and I am so proud of to be born to her…

Now, let me introduce you to the lady my mother was born to, she fell in love with her dying sister’s husband in 1910s and when her sister passed away, she decided to inform her parents about her love and convince them to marry her dead sister’s husband but decided to take home his children too. She was the lady I saw stand up to the cops in the family-run retail business in the early 1970s. Yeah…. those days, cops would just come in to take freebies from businesses, she would not give in, I would be sitting on the portico playing with my stuff and I could see her yell at the cops, threaten them to be reported and feel no fear. I saw her talk to my mother when my mother would have her low moments on issues, telling her to not give a fuck of anyone or anything and do what she wants to, I remember the week she passed away, speaking to me, around 20 years back, I was in a bad marriage then, I remember her clearly, she was not holding my hand or telling me to be patient and take care of my family or be a “good girl” I remember her telling me to go after my dreams, to just step out of the cage I had created for myself and she said in her quivering voice, “don’t regret the time passed, fly for the time that is ahead” 

That’s my family line for you, these ladies define my life. For me, it comes in my blood, it is the only thing I have ever known or seen, so when I do not do anything less than what an alpha would do, you must know, that I know nothing other than being one. 

But what excites me even more, is what I am looking forward to, in my daughter, she now has a line of 3 super crazy, super driven and wonders women in her bloodline… I so look forward to seeing her wings grow, to see her fly, to see her achieve and to see her rebel… to shine and conquer… 

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